I was thinking about the bit in Force Awakens about Rey not wanting Finn to hold her hand, and it reminded me of one of my favorite movie scenes, which is from The Village.
Kind of spoiler-y: It's the "Those We Don't Speak Of" scene where the creature is lurking and everyone goes to hide, but Ivy goes out to the porch and stretches her hand out, waiting for Lucius to take it. She doesn't need him to hold her hand, and she isn't less brave than him...she's standing out in the open for crying out loud, and the longer she stands there, the closer we see the creature getting to her in the background. But he's out in the open and unsafe and she knows that if he senses she is unsafe, he'll come to her. (This is when I start to sob every, single, time.) Layered with what I think is James Newton Howard's most beautiful score, I think this scene is really powerful in a very unique way.
The weak character trope in movies I want Hollywood to get rid of, is when a woman is put in a situation where she can do something, but does nothing. I'm not really sure how instead what they've done is made it so that no woman wants help or to be rescued ever. Hey, if I'm in a dangerous situation and can't help myself, please help me. And if you're in a sword fight and happen to be losing badly and a sword falls at my feet, I'll pick it up and help you instead of standing there watching.
Possibly my favorite example of this done right is actually from The Nutcracker. The Nutcracker Prince is fighting the Rat King (yes, Rat King) and he's losing badly, so Clara, who's standing on the sidelines, takes off her SHOE and throws it at the Rat King's head, which somehow kills him.
And just to be clear, I don't have an issue with Rey. I had a tiny issue with them feeling the need to have her say "I don't need you to hold my hand" instead of just having her, you know, not need him to hold her hand. That's all.
Romantic doesn't equate to weak, Hollywood. Please get that into your heads.